Discussing a terminal illness or a mental illness is meant to be a hush-hush affair(sarcasm), or else you are worth nothing but trolling! The Irish influencer Rachel Gorry’s recent case proves nothing but this after she discussed her husband’s (Daniel) illness after his demise.
Daniel was diagnosed with stage four esophageal cancer in 2018, around the same time Gorry also set up an Instagram account alongside her husband, which focused on their house revamp, and this set the premises for the trolling to begin.
Daniel’s initial prognosis was one to five years, which later got reduced to a year. The platform soon became a place for them to document his cancer, which became a target for trollers in the blink of an eye. Although initially, Rachel received warm and kind messages along the lines of, “I feel so alone, and I can so relate to what you’re saying,” as Daniel’s condition started getting worse, things started getting worse online too.
Rachel has bravely spoken about the grief she experienced in the wake of her husband’s death and some of the cruel messages she received in the aftermath. She revealed that she received messages that called her a ‘merry widow’ and other nasty things. She tearfully added “I just wanted to come on and address it, it’s not new to me it’s been going on a while, and they obviously have a grudge and don’t think I’m doing things right. “I just think people setting up these pages and dogging people out of it you don’t know the effect.”
Further adding, she also said: “Look I’m fine because I know I’m doing the best that I can and I feel like I’m grieving the best I can and I’m doing the best for myself and the best for my kids.”
During the time when Daniel was on his deathbed, she received messages/prayers for Daniel’s wellbeing, and one crazy message among them was from a lady saying I’m praying and I said: ‘thank you so much,” “And she said: ‘I’m praying that you die and go kill yourself. Crazy stuff.”
This instance Rachel recalled as one of the first trolling experiences that shook her. “I couldn’t believe that. Like, you hear about trolls, and you kind of don’t think anything of it until you’re on the other end.” She added.
People made sure with their trolling that she was taught to grieve in the right manner (just a glimpse of how nosy can people get) and how she wasn’t crying enough (heavy sigh). However, Ms. Gorry explained that it was essential to keep living for her daughters, Leah, Holly, and Hannah.
Ms. Gorry did take a short break from Instagram after Daniel’s passing, particularly to avoid the trolling, but she came back stronger, questioning, “Why would I let them win?”
The Irish influencer has over 209000 followers, and they have managed to raise a collective of over 16 lakh rupees for the Oesophageal cancer fund and Tullamore Hospital.